I’m fairly sure I have a big enough penis – well, it’s seven and a bit inches from where I like to measure it, and it feels pretty girthy to me – but I don’t seem to be able to make my girlfriends have an orgasm when we’re having sex. I’ve tried the loads of the foreplay thing, tried some sex positions, and I’ve tried giving them an orgasm first, etc, etc. I want to cum together when we’re having sex. Is there some position I could use to make this happen?
Generally speaking, men find it much easier to climax during sex than women do. While it’s all well and good to go with the ‘ladies first’ approach, that isn’t always feasible in a long term relationship. Sometimes, you want the comfort of sex and mutual orgasm without having to spend hours on foreplay beforehand; and sometimes you want hot, fast sex without having to think about anything other than the passion of the moment. This is where a sex toy or two can come in handy.
The doggy-style sex position is my visual favourite, but my biggest fantasy now is about trying anal sex with my wife. What can I do to make this happen?
Which sex positions do you most enjoy? Guys and girls, do you find you like to compromise at times, because you each have your favourites? Or are there different sex positions you most love, depending on the time of the day or maybe the mood? And how do you get the most from the positions you most enjoy? (Have you watched the Lovers’ Guide Sexual Positions feature? We’re hoping so!!) Share your thoughts. Email the Lovers’ Guide team. To download the Lovers’ Guide to Sexual Positions, click through here.
You’ve responded in high style to our first call for you to share your sex advice – and it’s great to hear of such varied and vibrant love lives. Here’s a taste of what you’ve sent in so far.
Man-on-top sex positions aren’t always passive for the woman. With many variations on the ‘missionary’ position, the woman can control the depth of penetration and set the pace for intercourse.
Of all the rear-entry sex positions, the ‘doggy’ position is almost certainly the best known. But with imagination, the loving couple can find others that are even more stimulating.
For couples who prize intimacy and close contact when they make love, side-by-side sex positions give maximum opportunity for cuddling, caressing and kissing.
Try these sex positions if you’re looking for a head rush – and you’re in an athletic mood!
It can be nerve wracking, even with a trusted, long-term partner, when you’d like to try a new sex position. We can feel a bit embarrassed, perhaps about sex generally, and don’t really want ourselves or our partner to make a mistake. There’s also the risk that, if we suggest a new position to try, this might be taken as criticism of him or her by our partner. Rest assured, such challenges as these can be overcome.