There are times when we want to feel skin-on-skin close with our lover, one within the other, maybe writhing or just lazying our way toward orgasm. What are the best sex positions for these times? Do we stick with missionary sex or switch things around a bit and still have maximum contact? Here are some suggestions. Share your own!
Missionary position sex
The missionary sex position has a lot going for it. It’s a lot of women’s, especially, favourite position. It’s easy, it’s relatively gentle; some women like to feel quite passive while their partner takes control during sex; and there’s plenty of eye to eye contact and kissing too. Men, if your partner likes missionary position sex but you feel that it’s not the easiest way for her to experience orgasm, use plenty of foreplay first. Offer oral sex and use your hands. And try riding a little higher while you have sex, so your pubic bone grinds against her clitoris. It’s her clitoris that can give her the most stimulation, no matter what size you are. Then, if you’ve had your orgasm and she hasn’t yet, go back to sex play. Use your mouth or your hands – she should be well lubricated by now – while she can settle back and enjoy.
Boosting missionary sex
You can go deeper while you’re having sex in the missionary position by – guys – hooking your arms beneath her knees and raising them. In this position, she’ll be able easily to stimulate her own clitoris with her hands. You’ll also get more leverage for harder sex if you both like that. The view is different too. You can watch each other’s abandon and perhaps experience a different sense of release. If the woman can rest her feet on the man’s shoulders, he can support her bum for extra stimulation and greater control.
Reverse missionary
For sex in the reverse missionary position, the woman lies face down and the man penetrates from behind. This isn’t like doggy style sex, because it’s a lot less forceful – there isn’t that ‘thwop thwop thwop’ on the woman’s behind – but it can be nice and deep and the man can wrap his arms around his partner and hug her close. It might seem odd that this feels intimate given that eye to eye contact is, obviously, lessened, but that can actually add to the feelings of trust and comfort as you both let yourselves go with your feelings and also fantasise. It can be nice not to feel you’re being looked at, while you can rub cheeks with your partner and hear his or her breath. The woman can reach behind and hug her man toward her, gripping his buttocks, or use her hands to stimulate her clitoris. You might like to have a cushion beneath your hips while having sex in this position, both to raise your vagina for your partner to enter more easily, and also to rub against.
Spoons
Spooning is a great way to have sex when you want to wrap yourselves around each other and make sex linger. Penetration is relatively shallow. You can both reach around with your hands to caress your partner, and it’s easy access to the woman’s breasts and clitoris. She can push herself back against her man and take up the rhythm with him. You can get a nice view or close your eyes and lose yourselves in each other’s scents. You can even share some tasty nibbles or a glass of wine while you go!