Do you know that almost 90% of men like their partner to play with their balls? And 50% of men incorporate testicular stimulation into their masturbation routine. But the real question is: What exactly do you do down there? How much pressure is too much? Should you suck or squeeze them? Both? Neither?
Since the male orgasm is far more complex than stroking or sucking the penis, this guide should help. Ready? Go nuts!
Start by holding the scrotum in the palm of your hand and squeezing gently. Trace the shape of the scrotum with your fingers. Remember, a very light touch can tickle, so touch confidently, but carefully. Gauge your partner’s reaction and adjust accordingly. Try a soft stroke during sex to start out. Some great positions for easy access to the testicles are cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy-style, 69 and standard oral sex.
Try tracing up the scrotum with your fingers, focusing on the ‘seam’ (or raphe, in proper terms) which might be visible up the middle of the scrotum. It’s usually more sensitive to touch than the skin around it. Try tracing a figure 8 or W shape around the testicles and over the raphe. Better yet, come up with your own design. If he’s enjoying it, try applying more pressure, as well as some different versions of cupping and gentle massage. You should be playing more with the scrotum than the actual testicles.
Gently run your fingers through the hair, holding the scrotum firmly in your hands and then relax. Draw your fingers along one side and drag your thumb along the other side, tracing the line up the crease between his balls and his inner thighs. Use your index finger to draw a little circle lightly at the base of his penis and the top of his scrotum. Mix and play with these combinations and gauge his reactions. When he verbalizes pleasure, do more of that!
Should You Suck Or Squeeze His Balls – Or Both?
For oral stimulation, you can mimic some of these manual techniques using your mouth and tongue, too. Lick up the raphe, starting from the base of the balls and finishing at the top of the shaft. Try gently pushing the scrotum up for maximum balls-mouth contact. Lick with your whole tongue first, then try targeting specific areas with the point of your tongue.
Afraid to take the testicles into your mouth? Just go slow. Don’t suck aggressively, but don’t hold them in your mouth and do nothing, either. Swirl your tongue around each testicle in combination with some gentle lip pressure. You can also suck an individual testicle into your mouth while pulling away to give a little tug. To sweeten the deal, try incorporating a flavored lube.
Don’t forget the perineum! The area is extra sensitive because of its close proximity to the prostate. If you hum or make some noise, the reverberations can create a little vibration that adds a little something extra.
You could also incorporate toys. A small bullet vibe is a great place to start. It’s tiny and non-intimidating. Pollock recommends starting with a finger vibe, too, which can give you a little more control. Even a standard vibrating cock ring can be flipped so that the vibrating portion (intended for a partner’s clitoris/perineum) is facing the scrotum. Ball stretchers are also an option. Prior to orgasm, the testicles move toward the body, and a ball stretcher prevents this from happening to potentially slow the orgasm. It can also make the big finish more intense.
With a man’s balls being uber sensitive, here’s what you shouldn’t do when handling these precious jewels. As is true with any sexual encounter, communication is most important. Pay attention to body language! If they pull away, cringe, or stop responding, stop. Communicate. The ball handler should also be aware of their nails, take off their rings and get rid of any dangly bracelets or watches. When it comes to pressure, be gentle, but not to the point that he can barely feel anything – these are genitals, not fine china. Then, gradually increase pressure, communicating throughout. But do not ever twist them. Testicles move within the scrotum, but they’re not just floating there. Keep the right on the right and the left on the left. Too much movement can hurt. Finally, don’t shame a man’s balls or scrotum. Guys already know testicles aren’t the most aesthetically pleasing appendage. Keep any negative opinions to yourself.