I was asked by someone in their mid-forties if there is anything to make their vagina tighter? Happily, the answer is a resounding, ‘Yes’!
The vagina is a ring of muscle. Like other muscles in your body, you can contract and relax it. This has a toning and tightening effect. An added benefit is that it makes your vagina more sensitized to sexual pleasure sensations.
There are several pelvic muscles. The first step in tightening the vagina is for you to become aware of these muscles and how they feel when you contract and relax them. In societies all over the world, we are so conditioned to ignore the entire genital area that most people are not aware of what these muscles feel like. But the good news is that it’s easy to change that!
Here is the simplest way. The next time you are urinating squeeze so that you stop the flow. Do this a few times so that you 
get used to feeling those muscles move. It might not be a very big movement, but you should observe that it has an impact. One moment you’re peeing, the next you stop. Then start. And stop.
Okay, so now you have experienced that your pelvic muscles contract and relax.
The second step is to practice that contraction and relaxation when you are not peeing. Contract…and relax. Contract…and relax. It may feel like nothing is happening. Remind yourself that you observed your pee stop and start, so you know for sure that something IS happening. It’s just that it is a new sensation and it might take a little time for you to feel it.
Contract and relax between five and twenty times. Start with a five and build up to twenty. You should feel real results in four to six weeks.
However, do NOT strain hard. Be gentle. After all, you don’t want to pull a muscle! You can do this exercise standing, 
seated, or lying down on your back. Whichever of these postures you choose make sure that your spine is aligned in a comfortable, natural line (not hunched over, slouched, or with your neck to one side). This will greatly enhance the benefits of the exercise.
Our muscles are not just physical clumps. They are very responsive to emotion. In fact, the pelvic muscles in particular – for both women and men – catch and hold emotion. You can enhance your practice of muscle contraction by listening to relaxing, uplifting music while you do the exercise.
This will bring a sense of well-being and ease into your vagina and develop your sensuality as a 
whole. Not only that, but they help to guard against pelvic organ prolapse and urinary incontinence. These effective exercises are actually based on traditional Chinese wellness methods and are well worth making part of your daily routine.
This guest piece is by Vena Ramphal Ph.D. A wellbeing & intimacy advisor to female leaders: Bit.ly/VenaLGlink