Homemade ‘porn’ can seem a daunting prospect, but with a little preparation – and careful agreement about when the results may be shown – it can certainly make for a steamier sex life.
Gerry (28): My wife wants us to make our own porn with our phones. I’m a bit worried about it. What do you think? I mean, could we be prosecuted or anything? Also, I couldn’t bear it if anyone ever saw it.
Annie (30): I like this idea a lot. All the porno stuff that he gets is so terrible, I’m sure we could do better. I’ve always been a show-off and it wouldn’t be any problem for me at all. Are there any things we should know about?
The Lovers’ Guide replies:
With the era of the smart phone, this is a popular subject in the homes of many sexually adventurous couples. Of course, what you do in the privacy of your own home is entirely your affair: the law has no say in the matter. Provided that you give no offence to anyone there is nothing legal standing in your way. In fact, for many sexual show-offs, like you, Annie, the smart phone has been a real boon. Until recently it was impossible to make meaningful home grown ‘porn’ but now you can video yourselves doing anything you like and then erase it for safety if that’s what you want.
A good way of starting is simply to set up the phone – or a camera – and then make love as you usually would. If this gentle experiment works out well by increasing your pleasure at the time or later, all well and good. Now you might want to get more adventurous. Some couples say that they like to act out their favourite fantasies, or get their lover to do so. If you want really to get things going you could write a simple script with a real storyline to it.
Preparing for the actual recording of the video is now half the fun. You can decide on locations in and around your house, or even elsewhere, provided you are cautious about giving offence to others. Once your shooting script is completed, it’s time for rehearsals. These can, if you play it right, take a long time to perfect! Of course, you’ll have to try out all kinds of setups, clothes, ways of doing things, deciding who videos which parts and when, and how you video yourselves both together. But this is probably the best bit.
Once you’ve got your results saved, there are other issues to consider. The first is privacy. It’s all very well capturing such saucy moments on video but how are you going to keep them secure from the prying eyes of the children or others who might come across them? Reassurances on security will probably be high on your list of priorities, Gerry, from what you say. Also, if your relationship is at all dodgy, it’s best not to indulge in these sorts of games. The potential for blackmail is huge. You must both agree under what circumstances the video may and may not be shown and what will be done with it should you decide to split up in the future.
Now to a few practical hints. Assuming you’ve got together and have rehearsed what you want to do on the day, now is the time to organize your lighting and to prepare your props carefully. It’s easy, given that you’re doing the whole thing as a turn-on, to get carried away with the actual sexiness of it and then find that you’ve forgotten even quite essential bits of gear.
Make a checklist and collect everything together. Get undressed well before you start shooting so that you don’t have a rings and indentations around various parts of your body where clothes constrict. This looks very unsexy on the finished video. Make-up is not necessary except if you, Annie, want to use it for special effect.
Perhaps the best way to start the actual sexy part of the video is to strip. A really sexy striptease to music of your choice can get things going. The one who is recording should remember to move around slowly, rather than leaving the phone/camera fixed on a tripod. Also, try to go for unusual angles. How about standing on a chair or even a pair of steps? Or lying down at the same level as your partner? Avoid overt, crass shots such as directly looking up your lover’s crotch. You’ll soon learn how to balance pleasantly sexy stuff with really randy material, but be warned that a lot of home-made porn looks very naff indeed. Experience will be your best guide.
Lastly comes the viewing. You’ll probably have both worked on the rushes, edited and put the finished video together, but even so, the premiere can be real fun. Make an evening of it. Close the curtains, dim the lights, have a small drink and relax.