Vaginal fisting is somewhat of a taboo still amongst lesbians. The term itself has quite aggressive connotations, but when done correctly can actually be enjoyable and exciting whether it be with a regular girlfriend or someone you are dating on a casual basis.
It’s an intimate and thrilling sexual manoeuvre and one that if done correctly, can provide the receiver with amazing and intense orgasms.
It’s absolutely crucial to take the first time slowly as this is something that could cause pain if not done with sensitivity and patience. It may sound like it’s something you need to do hard and fast, but not only is it physically impossible to do it like this, it’s also emotionally hard going to be fisted like this.
In order for the vaginal walls to open wide enough for your hand to fit in, she needs to be highly aroused, so make sure you spend plenty of time on foreplay and exploring her body to get her to this state. She will also need to be very relaxed, so trust is very important – you must listen to her. If she tells you to stop or slow down, do it.
It would be pretty difficult to do it without lube, so choose a simple one that is just lubricating – it wouldn’t be a good idea to get anything that includes a stimulant as you will be using a lot. Also make sure that you use a latex glove just in case you have any cuts on your hand or if she is near the end or beginning of her period. You still need to watch out for STI’s.
The idea is to try and get your hand as small as possible. Cup your four fingers around your thumb so your hand is a skinny as it can get. If you start with one or two fingers at a time, you should be able to ease in gently. Stimulate the clit with your thumb as you do this to maintain that high level of arousal.
With your knuckles facing the bum (assuming she is on her back) and the bottom of her vagina, slowly rotate your hand, while gently pushing in. You can and probably should take this as slowly a possible and again, listen to her. Feel for any changes in movement from her – she may feel that she can’t say anything but you can tell by involuntary movements.
Getting your knuckles through is the most difficult part and not necessarily something you may want to do first time. Use plenty of lube and gently and slowly keep pushing. You will find that once you are inside fully, she will ‘clamp’ around you. Relax a little and then slowly start a back and forth movement. You can also try twisting slightly to the left and right – just see what suits her.
Just remember – take it slow and listen. It’s a very intense feeling that can leave some girls feeling vulnerable, so make sure you respect everything she says and wants.