Are you addicted to porn? Instead of enjoying beautiful sexual activity with a loving partner, are you alone watching porn or are you turning away from your partner to watch porn? Pretty much everyone watches porn online – that in itself is no reason to worry. If you are asking: What is porn addiction? What are the signs of porn addiction? How to break a porn addiction? then it might be you have recognized the signs of turning away from true lovemaking and intimacy, and toward a mentally destructive fantasy life, which will not be good for you or your partner.
Signs of porn addiction
Masturbating to porn can be like drug use. When you are growing up and seeking real sex education – we have all been there. Your first glimpse online of open sexual activity can be a deeply liberating experience. (My God! There are other people in this world who have these thoughts like I do! Show me more!) Yes, there is a difference between lovemaking and porn; nonetheless, it can be liberating for you sexually to see people having sex, especially if your upbringing has been restrained and repressive sexually. This can and has been a sexual awakening for many of us. You do not need to worry if you enjoy healthy sexual relationships and you still enjoy getting off on your own – masturbating to online pornography. That is as much worry about masturbation as it is worry about porn. (And please, just shake any worries about masturbation right off.)
Where the signs of porn addiction that might be problematic might be are that you don’t want other people near you when you experience yourself sexually masturbating. Rather, you would like to be alone with a manufactured online porn fantasy. Or: you’ve been alone too long, and it may be time to gain confidence and share with a partner. (You’re probably beautiful.)
Also, you might find that your porn addiction is leading you to more extreme forms of video, in order for you to be able to get off. Is porn addiction real? At this point, yes, it may well have become real for you. Again, don’t worry if you are highly sexed and masturbating several times a day. Just don’t be afraid of sharing this with a sexual partner.
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Dealing with porn addiction
If you are strong enough, turn it off. Even, don’t masturbate for a little while. When you feel the need to get off, to masturbate and cum, try not using porn. (We are not saying you shouldn’t be masturbating! Far from it.)
Explore your own sexual thoughts, mental images, imagination
Take time to get sensual. Lay back and use music. Make this about your body – through and through – rather than what, through the more extreme pornography, can become what are, frankly, acts of violence against another. Imagine how it would be if a loved partner were sharing this with you. Indulge these sexual and personal fantasies. Learn about yourself as you masturbate.
How to break a porn addiction
If you have a sexual partner, devote all attention to him or her. Try it! Concentrate on your partner’s pleasure. Offer oral sex and manual stimulation. Give massage and share sex toys. Learn to love your partner’s body all over again. Learn again what loving pleasure is. Rub against and get yourself off pleasing him or her. Feel physical – as opposed to screen-visual.
When you masturbate, or when your partner gives you oral sex or uses his/her hands, don’t worry if you’re not going to cum initially. Focus on sensation.
Even say that this is what you’d like to do with your partner – to focus on his/her pleasure and just get a taste of yours.
You don’t have to fess up and say you’ve been on Pornhub way way too much lately. Just say it in a way that works for you. Take your sexual pleasure from a computer screen to your body and – if you have – your partner’s.