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Penetrative intercourse isn’t the be-all and end-all of sexual pleasure. Have you thought of trying mutual masturbation to spice up your sex life? It’s great for a lot of reasons, no matter who your partner is. When you think of mutual masturbation, you might wonder: ‘Why not just have sex?’ There can sometimes be reasons why you might not want to – a main one being you’re too tired for sex, but still want to have an orgasm.
And, at the most basic level, if neither of you has a condom, and this is casual sex, you’re still fine. Just because you don’t have protection – a condom – doesn’t mean you can’t have a very sexy time. You can masturbate together – risk free.
Learn from your partner for better sex as you masturbate
As you masturbate, you can get to see your partner doing something to his/herself that you’ve never done before. It can be great for a man to see how his partner uses female masturbation techniques to arouse herself – and for a woman to see how her partner has refined male masturbation to satisfy his needs. Everyone’s different – and likes to go it alone for solo sex in subtly different ways. This should give you ideas for how to notch up your sex life for better sex when you do have penetrative or oral sex. And, of course, when you are manually stimulating one another sexually.
Let’s face it: seeing your partner masturbate should be really sexy! It’s like watching porn sex videos, whether you like to watch porn videos on your own or with your partner, but it’s better. You get to embrace both your voyeuristic and exhibitionist sides simultaneously. It’s hot seeing your partner get off. It’s hot having your partner watch you get off. It’s just hot – all round. A win-win here.
Positions to masturbate
Try different positions to masturbate – not just on your backs but side by side or straddling your partner. Look into each other’s eyes as you get yourselves off. It’s hugely intense sexually and a powerful bonding experience for the two of you. You might find it takes you longer to experience orgasm than when you masturbate solo.
You could also try directing one another. Tell your partner – or have your partner tell you – exactly what it is you’d like them to do. How do you want your partner to self-touch? Ask your partner to speed it up, slow it down, apply more pressure, or touch a different part of the body. You can also ask your partner to edge – only allowing orgasm once they have your permission. There is a limitless number of commands you can use with your partner while mutually masturbating. Slow it down and use lube. Get creative!
Using sex toys to masturbate
Still on the fence about using sex toys as a couple? Mutual masturbation is a simple way to ease into sex toys by watching your partner masturbate with a toy. It makes the transition to using them during sex smoother. It’s also good for your partner, because there are toys a woman will never get to see in action, such as a masturbator sleeve, unless she watches her man using one. Use sex toys for anal masturbation, if you’re into that.
Mutual masturbation is a great form of sex in its own right. Is it penetrative or oral sex? No, obviously not. But if you only do one or two kinds of sex all the time, it can get boring. Sure, you can switch sex positions, and that might help, but the answer from time to time could be simply to masturbate together. Share what you love most about yourself and your body-bits. When you get going, you could be both of you only hearing each other near and experience orgasm. Then kick back and zen. Give it a go – and enjoy.