Gagging while giving a blowjob is a totally normal thing that happens to just about everyone from time to time. But that doesn’t make it any less unpleasant when it happens to you. The gag reflex is triggered by an object touching the roof of your mouth, the back of your tongue, the area around your tonsils, or the back of your throat. After all, it’s there to keep anything too big to swallow or digest from getting lodged in your throat.
To prevent triggering it, well, first off, oral sex doesn’t have to be the head-bobbing, deep-throating affair that you see in porn. As a sexual act, a blowjob shouldn’t simply be focused on the pleasure of the person receiving it – which is usually intense – but the comfort of the giver, too.
Deep-throat Is Not Necessarily Synonymous With A Great Blow Job
Do adjust your penis sucking technique so that you’re not fully enveloping their member in your mouth. Use a hand to grasp the base of the shaft and manage the pace and depth of penetration into your mouth. You can stroke the shaft as you work the head with your tongue and mouth. Even when you’re not stroking the shaft, always keep one hand wrapped around the base. Good tip: as you suck and lick the head of the penis, allow some saliva to drip out to provide lubrication for you handiwork on the shaft.
While giving head, try breathing through your nose while he’s in your mouth – this may seem like the most obvious advice, but being conscious of your breathing will help greatly in reducing any anxiety you might feel about gagging. While breathing through your nose will help you create a steady blowjob rhythm, remember that there’s nothing wrong with coming up for air or giving your jaw and mouth a break every now and then. This is another reason why it’s important to be using your hands as well to keep your mouth from having to do all the work.
But what if you want to give a hefty blowjob that you know will risk making you gag, what should you do? You need to discover where your gag reflex starts on your own before finding out mid-blowjob. You can do this by brushing your tongue when you brush your teeth and seeing how far back the toothbrush can go before a gag reflex is triggered. The area nearest the tip of your tongue where the gag begins is the place you can consider as your ‘gag limit’.
If you have an overactive or very sensitive gag response, you can try some exposure therapy in order to possibly lessen your gag response. Dentists believe that you can ‘train’ your gag reflex by activating it purposely. This means that with your toothbrush, or by using a clean finger, initiate a gag reflex repeatedly as much as you are comfortable doing. Relax your throat and breathe through your nose, holding for 10 seconds, and then pulling back.
Do this a few times, then start to go deeper—you’ll notice your gag reflex becoming less sensitive. If you have a dildo or phallic vibrator, you can start to practice with that as well as you get more comfortable. It may take a while, but eventually, your throat should desensitise enough to be ready for more.
Remember though that being able to deep-throat is not necessarily synonymous with a great blow job. The bulk of his penile sexy nerve endings are actually in the head. A final pro tip for those with an overly sensitive gag response – use that hand on the shaft to angle his penis to one side – into the inside of your cheek. Believe us, in the heat of passion, he is very unlikely to notice.