Gay dildo sex play is a beautiful way to prolong stimulation for one or both partners while concentrating solely on the pleasure of receiving anal stimulation with the dildo, this in ways that contrast with the pleasures of anal sex.
When we enjoy being passive, it is of course the case that one of the pleasures of anal sex is the feeling our partner is spending himself inside us – we share his lust and abandon and the feeling at last of his orgasm shuddering through the length of his body.
This vicarious pleasure can, though, be a little too brief to be fully satisfying; when our partner has experienced orgasm, we may feel we haven’t had enough yet.
One solution is to use anal sex toys build the passive man’s pleasure and satisfaction while his partner remains very aroused and has yet to experience orgasm.
Gay dildo sex play is at its best when the passive man is fully confident of his partner’s desire to take care of and pleasure him – and, of course, when his partner deserves such confidence.
The sensations of dildo play can be extreme – sex play like this really does really does require us to know that we can make whatever noises and faces come naturally and our partner will love us for this. We might be lying down flat on our front or positioned on all fours or on our back with our legs up – no matter which position we find most comfortable, we need to feel real confidence in the man using the dildo on us.
Whether you are using the dildo on yourself or you and your partner are using dildos on each other, really take time to reach for and massage the prostate – combine quite delicate, thoughtful dildo play with periods of harder thrusting. If you’re playing together, give feedback throughout and feel confident to issue directions – use words as well as noise to signal what’s working and what you want.
For a great variation on dildo sex play for two, have the passive, receiving partner lie on his back with his knees raised while the penetrating partner squats over his face, lowering his anus, penis or balls over his partner’s mouth as he uses the dildo on him. It can be lovely for the passive partner to rim his man and lick and suck his penis and balls while being penetrated. You should find this position really comfortable for dildo sex play.
In terms of health and safety, avoid sharing your dildo – i.e. moving it between your anus and your partner’s. Clean your dildo thoroughly after use to avoid bacterial build-up. Placing a condom over the dildo can help to keep it safe.
Anal dildo sex play
Anal dildo sex play offers a huge sense of sensual satisfaction, through the nerve-endings packed around the anus and, in the man, stimulation of the prostate, the male G-spot.
Exploring anal dildo sex, choose an appropriate size of dildo. Take care not to damage your anus, which can carefully be pleasurably stretched but can tear if forced. Use plenty of a good sexual lubricant – and one that will not damage the dildo. For anal sex play, the dildo should have a flanged base, or the moulded testicles at the base, to ensure that it cannot be sucked inside. It must also be clean, to avoid bacterial infection, and smooth, because the lining of the rectum is delicate.
If you would like to be really clean inside for anal dildo play, you might wish to douche first, but given a healthy diet, with sufficient fibre, and no intestinal complaints, going to the lavatory beforehand should be enough to avoid soiling.
Whether alone or with your partner, you might find you need to relax your anus first before inserting your dildo. If your fingernails are smooth, use a lubricated finger to do this, massaging around the outside of the anus then dipping a finger or two inside.
If your anus tightens when you then insert the dildo, bear against it, as if expelling faeces, to open yourself up. Once the dildo is inserted, it should be easy to let any remaining resistance go and relax around it.
As you explore inside yourself and thrust the dildo, keep moving the dildo at a pace that remains fully pleasurable. You might find that your sensation builds gradually. As the sensation mounts, and as you experience what has been called anal orgasm, keep riding that wave of pleasure; keep stimulating yourself to maintain the feeling of orgasm. You might find that these experiences of intense anal orgasm occur periodically, becoming more intense and closely packed together for a while and then waning when your body and your mind have had enough. If you are using your dildo on your partner, pay careful attention to how his feelings vary and develop.