Anger Management

Usually when we fight, and especially in relationships, it is our own internal anger and conflict we are expressing. Yes, there are times in life when we need to stand up to ourselves with whatever degree of force is appropriate, but where people are...

Intimacy: loving your shadow

What draws us, even compels us, to love and desire one person rather than another? There will, no doubt, be a range of superficial similarities: points of connection, looks, attitudes and interests shared. But that’s the case with our friends as well...

Gender roles

We are (usually) trained in our sense of gender roles within heterosexual families. There, still, the feminine becomes associated with the female, the masculine with male. There are norms concerning how men and women may acceptably behave. Those norm...

Naturism

It has been said – a lot – that a naturist camp or beach is about as sexy as, well, a very unsexy thing from the planet unsexy. How unsexy to see everything straight away… But some would counter: ‘How much better to see what you might be getting late...

Dating old, dating young

Mixed age relationships can be challenging for both the older and younger partner. It isn’t only what your friends might say. It’s also to do with the meeting of differences – within you, which is to say within your own attitudes to age, as well as b...

Finding and sharing a gay space

Let’s begin with this statement: As a gay man you’re gifted. You have a greater level of perception, a sense of exquisite beauty that rises above the humdrum straight world we all too often inhabit. Being gay is beautiful. When you’re in a relationsh...

Communicate

It’s one of the key ingredients that make for a successful relationship. How good are you at opening up to your partner, at understanding what he means to say and making sure the message you intend gets through? If there’s a problem or if you need to...