Ring her bell - with cock rings
Vibrators may be the most common sex toy tucked into the nation’s bedside drawers but cock rings are most certainly a useful addition to your sex toy chest. These circular toys are designed to slip over the penis and grip the base of the shaft, helping men stay harder for longer. Many modern cock rings also come with added clitoral stimulators or vibrators to increase the clitoral stimulation for a woman too - and hence increase the likelihood of her reaching climax through penetrative sex.
You can get cock rings in numerous materials and sizes; metal, rubber, jelly and silicone to name just a few. All have their benefits and down-sides: metal cock rings can be cooled or warmed to add an extra frisson. However, they can be hard to remove once the man is erect so the solid ones are best avoided. If you want to use a metal cock ring, make sure that it has a hinge and a release catch. Rubber cock rings are stretchy and can fit men of different sizes (though always clean your cock ring thoroughly if planning on using it with multiple partners). However, if a man is particularly girthy then you need to ensure you get the right size so that it doesn’t grip uncomfortably and hamper his enjoyment. Jelly cock rings have similar benefits to rubber ones. And silicone cock rings have similar benefits to rubber cock rings again, but can be damaged with silicone lube.
In addition to the above, you can also get ‘tie your own’ cock rings, leather studded cock rings and even cock rings with spikes on the inside if you’re into pain! There are also selection boxes offering a variety of cock rings to try to see which you both like best.
If you’re new to cock rings, it can be best to start with an inexpensive disposable jelly cock ring to see whether it’s something that you both enjoy using. Stretch it over the penis and behind the balls (if you opt for a non stretchy cock ring instead then simply position it as far down the shaft as it will go.) Simply wearing a cock ring with no additional accoutrements should increase the strength of your erections and help you last longer. Indeed, male strippers often use cock rings to help them stay ‘perky’ throughout their act. Once the ring is on, simply have sex as usual.
If you’ve chosen a cock ring with a clitoral stimulator, ensure that it’s facing upwards so that it rubs the right place. (Avoid any cock rings with hard plastic stimulators as these can bruise the clitoris and urethra, which can lead to irritation.) Alternatively, if you’re into anal play, you may decide to turn it around so that it rubs the man’s perineum as he thrusts instead.
If you’ve opted for a vibrating cock ring, turn the vibrator on before sliding the cock ring into place as otherwise it can be a little fiddly (not to mention dangerous if your partner has long nails). You can then position the vibrating bullet on the top of the penis so that it rubs against your partner’s clitoris with every thrust, or against your perineum so that your partner can press it during sex to indirectly stimulate your prostate. You can also get cock rings with two vibrating bullets so that you both feel the benefit.
When it comes to sex positions, obviously, doggy style sex isn’t going to be much use to you if you’re using a clitoral stimulator of any kind. Instead, opt for the missionary position, cowgirl or face-to-face spooning. If your partner needs a lot of clitoral stimulation, you could try Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) in which your pelvic area has constant contact with her pubic mound. However, many women can find constant stimulation against the clit too much to take so do go carefully.
A vibrating cock ring can also be a fun addition to oral sex: the woman simply slips it on with the vibrator pressed against the man’s perineum rather than at the top of the shaft, then presses into it while her lips and tongue work their magic. This can be a great way to speed a man’s climax as it offers multiple levels of stimulation. You can also slip a cock ring over your tongue (or buy a specially designed tongue vibrator) to add vibration to cunnilingus. You can even use cock rings in solo play. Men can slip one on and press it against the perineum during masturbation while women can slide one on to a straight vibrator to add extra clitoral stimulation.
No matter which cock ring you choose, don’t wear it for more than 20 minutes, as you can damage your penis if you keep a cock ring on for too long – cock rings work by restricting blood flow. And if you opt for a rubbery one, be careful about removing it as it can deliver a nasty sting if it flicks back as you take it off. But with those minor worries aside, it’s certainly well worth investing in a cock ring: after all, every woman appreciates a ring!
