Styles of loving

In matters of partner selection, it hardly needs saying that different men pursue different qualities, but can be worth remembering that different people desire and love in different ways. Reflecting on how you love, and how others might love, can be...

Hitting the scene - and thriving!

It can be like swimming with sharks when you first hit the scene, the sprawl of clubs and bars in whichever big city you're nearest to. When you enter the bar, all eyes turn. They could be doing rather more than simply undressing you with their eyes ...

One-on-one? Commitments

It’s the younger who often assume they’re in a one-on-one relationship just because they’ve had sex once. Expectations run sky-high and are often unsustainable – though sometimes our earliest relationships do indeed last into the long-term. For those...

Setting the scene

You’ve had a wonderful evening. You dined well, perhaps saw a play, spent a little more time than you’d planned getting lost in the noise of your favourite bar. Now you’re taking him home. And now you need to preserve and enhance the mood of the even...

How to flirt

Flirting is massively underrated but it's a great way to make someone desire you!

Chemistry

The received wisdom is this: if you have to ask, ‘Do we have chemistry?’ the answer is probably no. No mental fireworks? No burning curiosity? No warm, buzzy feeling under the skin? Then it’s not going happen. Such is the conventional thinking. Only ...

Relaxed eyes

Ever find yourself entering the stare competition? The eyes meet and what do you do? Look away? (Then look back.) Or hold his gaze, forgetting you might want to smile, to the point it feels challenging? Gay men are intensely visually aware – we know ...