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Soft bondage

Soft bondageOne of the great sexual fantasies of all time, bondage can be wildly erotic and deeply passionate, adding that hint of danger, spice and abandon to your lovemaking.

Bondage is a commonly occurring theme in many sexual fantasies. But while some couples are happy to leave it within the realms of their imagination, others use it occasionally, or even regularly, to add a little spice to their sex lives.

The ultimate sex game, bondage embodies the elements of power, domination, submission and surrender. Undertaken gently, and in the spirit of fun, there is no reason why it should be harmful to your relationship, provided of course that both partners are happy with the game and their roles within it.

The idea is not to hurt, or even create discomfort, but simply to immobilize your partner, making them completely helpless and at your mercy.

An old-fashioned bed – a four-poster or a Victorian-style brass bed – is the ideal setting for a night of bound passion. However, anything which has pillars or bars at each corner will suffice. If your bed is of the simple kind without a headboard, don’t despair – with a little ingenuity, long cords can even be draped over the edge of the bed and attached to the wheels of a modern divan!

Choose soft materials as bindings – silken dressing-gown cords, featherlight chiffon scarves, stockings or strips of lace. You can theme it – the adventurous can use climbing ropes, naughty schoolgirls or boys can use ties, cowboys or Indians leather thongs, and doctors and nurses clean white bandages.

You may find that one of you prefers to do the tying, while the other prefers to be tied. Or perhaps you prefer to take it in turns to bind each other. Whichever way suits you, make sure you do it carefully so as not to hurt the skin.

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When he is tied …

His whole body is yours to explore and discover as he lies there bound and helpless. You can tempt and tease to your heart’s desire. There is no need even to touch him. You have the power to inflame him simply by being there. Undress in front of him, or dress up in something he really likes. Then run your fingers up and down the length of his body. The fact that he cannot reciprocate will drive him wild. When you know he can hold out no longer, give in to him and guide him inside you.

When she is tied…

She surrenders to you completely. Her body is open to you, and you have the power to please or deny. Cover her with kisses; let her feel the weight of your body on hers. Tease her with your tongue and give her the pleasure of long and sensual oral sex. Then enter her, and watch her pleasure as it mingles with the sweet frustration of being unable to touch your body.

Whichever kind of bondage you choose, the most important thing is to remember is that it should be a pleasure for you both. Should either of you wish to stop, you should stop immediately. But for many couples, a dabble into the |realms of fantasy adds an extra dimension to their sexual partnership.

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