Sex Problems

Sex and relationship therapy

With resident therapist, Paula Hall (BASRT Acc, BACP Acc, UKCP Reg) Each month Paula will be here to answer your questions on sex and relationships. Whether you're a man with erection problems or ejaculatory difficulties, or a woman struggling to rea...

Matching your sex-styles: two questions

I have always heard that women like men to take their time warming their woman up through kissing, caressing, masturbation and oral sex. My partner, though, goes straight for my cock, rubbing it vigorously or a few slurps of oral sex, but then can’t ...

Problem: ‘Full sexual intercourse isn’t pleasuring me’

A Lovers’ Guide visitor writes: "I’ve been with my boyfriend for nine months and recently we have started having sex. Before, I was a virgin. We have only had sex three times and each time was sore and uncomfortable. For a number of months, we had be...

Oral sex issues

We’d like here to talk through some of the concerns and questions regarding oral sex which we have received from you. To judge by your messages, it seems that all over the world there are some key themes here. So if you’re worrying, don’t - you’re in...

My sexual fantasies are really scaring me

Our sexual fantasies can seem a world away from the ways we actually have sex and think of our relationships. Advice is given to one whose sexual fantasies have become very troubling.

I can't experience orgasm with my boyfriend

Problem: Help! I've been dating my bf for seven months now, and I really love him, he is really great in bed – he would do whatever to make me feel the best... But I have a major problem: I can't reach orgasm no matter what he does. (I can easily be ...

Overcoming the fear of penetration

Men and women often accept that a woman's first sexual experience may be painful. If it is, it is nearly always because of this expectation. If you anticipate being hurt it is natural to tighten your vagina against the pain, and this reaction itself ...