By far the most popular of all sex toys is the vibrator. They are used mainly by women, but men also find them pleasurable. They need little care except for washing after use and ensuring that the batteries are in top condition.
Be inventive and explore all over you body with the vibrator. You may be surprised at the areas they feel terrific when vibrated and massaged. Try different speeds of vibration. Some areas of the body are stimulated most when the vibration is coarse and some when it is fine. Most vibrators have a speed adjustment for this.
Exploring your genitals
Once you have experimented with the vibrator on various parts of your body, you can now turn to your vulva. Start with the vibrator at a medium speed and rub it around the tops of your thighs, then move it around the pubic area.
Next, stimulate the area between the vagina and anus. This part can be particularly sensitive on some women. Now open the lips of your vulva with the fingers of one hand and gently find where the vibrator gives the most arousal.
Most women find that stimulating the clitoris directly is too powerful, or can actually be unpleasant, so start by experimenting around the clitoral area.
After a few minutes' experimenting, you will have a fairly good idea of what you most enjoy. If you start to have really powerful sensations you might want to go straight on to have an orgasm. If you prefer not to at this stage, try the vibrator inside your vagina.
By now you will probably be highly aroused and so will be wet with natural secretions. If not, use a little saliva on the vibrator, KY jelly or a sexual lubricant.
Another method is to try playing with the vibrator around the anal region. Many women enjoy the sensations produced by vibrating this area and a few, especially those who enjoy anal sex, like the vibrator actually inside them.
Men and vibrators
Men can enjoy being stimulated with a vibrator, but they rarely get as much pleasure out of it as their partner. Some men like certain parts of their body stimulated and a few like their genitals vibrated, but it rarely causes an orgasm as it does in women.
A man whose anus is highly sensitive can greatly enjoy both external and internal vibration and, as in women, the G spot (prostate gland) can be stimulated to great effect with a vibrator. This can best be done with him lying down with his legs pulled back and the vibrator inserted several inches and aimed at the front wall of the back passage.
Improving orgasm
Vibrators are put to best use by women who are unable to have orgasms without powerful stimulation from a source other than their fingers. Use of a vibrator can actually teach them to have an orgasm and they can then transfer the ability to the own, or their lover's, fingers.
Many women are concerned they will become addicted to the stimulation of a vibrator - but this is rarely so. |
