Vibrator orgasm part 3...

Orgasm addict: Is your vibrator turning you off?

We’ve come a long way since the time when owning a vibrator was considered to be taboo or perverted. Now well over half the women in the UK own at least one sex toy and they’re mainstream enough to be considered perfect fodder for chat show hosts to joke about.

But lovely as vibrators can be, if you become over-reliant on your toy to give you orgasms, you may find that it has a negative effect when it comes to making love with your partner. While vibrators offer a ‘fast food’ approach to orgasm, which can be addictive, generally speaking a lover will take longer to make you come.

If you use a vibrator and find it harder to orgasm with your partner than you did in the past, try these tips from the Lovers’ Guide to help you get the right balance between machine and man and have the most orgasms you can. There’s no reason that you have to consign your vibrator to the bottom of a dusty drawer: with a few tips and tricks, you can get orgasms both with and without a battery powered friend.

1          Alternate using your vibrator with using your hand when you masturbate. By having one ‘hands-on’ orgasm session, followed by one using your battery-driven friend, you’ll remind your body that it doesn’t always need an intense buzz in order to climax. Once you’ve reminded it that you’re adaptable in the ways in which you can have orgasms, it’s a lot more likely to play ball when your partner gets involved.

2          Use your vibrator on the mildest setting that you can for a while. It’s all too easy to get hooked on an intense buzz but with a bit of practice, milder stimulation can also give you great orgasms.

3          If your vibrator doesn’t have multi-speed functions, put your hand over your bits then hold your vibrator against the back of your hand. This will also help decrease the amount of stimulation and help your body relearn how to orgasm without you needing to ‘turn the dial up to 11’.

4          Get on top and set the pace when you’re having sex so that you can get as much clitoral stimulation as possible. If your lover holds a scarf around your lover back and pulls down as you grind, it will increase the pressure against your clitoris, thus delivering a similarly intense sensation as using a vibrator. Of course, once you’ve come, it’s your turn to indulge your partner and help them orgasm in the way that’s best for them. Fair is fair, after all.

5          Don’t treat your vibrator and your lover as things that should never meet. Introduce your vibrator into your love making, Your partner can hold it against your clitoris while having doggy-style sex, trail it across your nipples while you spoon or even use it anally while penetrating you vaginally as long as it has a flared base or is otherwise designed for anal play and you use a condom. After all, that way you get the best of both words: vibrator and lover working as one to give you the best orgasm possible.

Vibrators and orgasm - part 1, part 2, part 3