Love scripts: bad relationship patterns and how to avoid them

Ever wondered why you find yourself in relationships that aren’t good for you? It could be you’re following your love script, your largely unconscious sense of how your relationships ought to be. And where your unconscious gets it wrong, remedial act...

My wife had a lesbian sex flirtation! Party on?

“Is my wife a lesbian?!” Well, probably no. Still, when the booze is flowing at a great party, sexy things can happen. Worry not: advice is given.

I’m snooping on my partner’s internet sex sites

I sometimes find my boyfriend on the internet, well, more that I see the ‘history’ of the sites he’s visited, and they’re just porn. We have an enthusiastic sex life (four or five times a week) and he says he loves me but I just feel I can’t be enoug...

My partner saw a prostitute?!

In the middle of a really bad row, and I mean a 9 on the Richter Scale, my husband spat at me that he had once been to a prostitute. It hit me hard at the time, but then the whole row was hugely unsettling, and I didn’t ask when or what the circumsta...

My partner views internet porn

I've found my partner looks at lewd sites on the internet when I’m out, really pornographic stuff about older women etc. I have confronted him about it and he said it's just for titillation. He also looked at an AdultFriend finder site. Again, when c...

Lift your love life

We’d like to turn here to some of the messages you’ve sent in asking about what you can do to boost your relationships and revitalize your sex lives with your partners. Many of you are telling us that you’re looking for some quick, sexy tips – so if ...

My husband won't have sex with me

My husband of fifteen years has never had a real high sex drive, which stinks for me because mine is always racing. But within the past two years we have had sex probably ten times. He's just not interested. To make matters worse I have gained a lot ...