Lost Libido

He’s hot, you’re not. You’re compatible, but somehow your penis isn’t so keen. If you’re the one with the low libido, don’t think of this as a terrible, insurmountable problem you need to deal with on your own, but recognise it will be a relationship...

Homophobia: dealing with it - and beating it

It’s easy enough to see why homophobia exists, and why homophobic bullying happens. People bully. They want the excuse. They want something, someone to get at, to make feel bad, because that’s a quick fix to make them feel bigger, because they feel s...

Buried memories

As well as being physically intense, receiving anal sex can be a highly emotional experience. There is the sense of release from the day to day masks we wear, of full exposure of our most intimate selves, but also the risk that repressed feelings, bu...

Poppers

There are those for whom the use of poppers is de rigueur. When you're ready for sex, there’s no need to think about relaxing the anus: the amyl does that for you. But there’s a downside, namely that poppers leave you feeling druggy. Some would say i...

Coming Out

In an ideal world, coming out would be a thing of the past. There’d be no coming out to get through. As we developed our sexual identities through adolescence our peers and mentors would be absolutely open to whether we were gay or bi or straight – o...