Man-on-top sex positions: enhancing the missionary position

the_bum_tug_sex_positionsMan-on-top sex positions aren’t always passive for the woman. With many variations on the ‘missionary’ position, the woman can control the depth of penetration and set the pace for intercourse.

For many couples, the sex position of choice is the so-called ‘missionary’ position, in which the woman lies on her back with her legs open as she is penetrated by the man who lies on top of her. This is the basic model of all man-on-top sex positions. The others tend to be variations on the same theme.

Tops with lovers

The missionary position is the most popular sex position for many reasons. Many women consider it the most romantic position, almost certainly because the couple are always face to face. Every expression can be noticed, they are free to kiss, and each partner can see that they are being loved – something that is not possible in some other positions, such as rear-entry ones.

The missionary position, being such a passive one for the woman, absolves her of the responsibility of making anything much happen. Some women can relax and enjoy lovemaking more if they do not take a dominant, active role.

Closely allied to such feelings in the woman are parallel but opposite feelings in the man. Some men enjoy ‘dominating’ their partner during intercourse and tend most to enjoy such positions as encourage this – although from time to time most men enjoy other sex positions in which their partner takes the lead and control.

Many women experience great pleasure from being dominated during intercourse. Some women enjoy sex particularly if the man is in control and makes everything happen. Missionary position sex is ideal for this. The man, being on top, controls the thrusting and can pin the woman down to the bed and take her roughly and at his pace.

Being ‘taken’ like this can be highly exciting to some women. For the woman who is at all guilty about sexual needs and appetites, this position leaves her free of guilt about sex, because she can think of herself as being overpowered by a much stronger man.

sex position: man on topUse massage oil for extra sensuality in missionary postion sex. Oil each other, avoiding the pelvis if using condoms, then slip-slide away.

Free to kiss

Because the couple’s faces are close together, they can easily kiss – not just lips but all over each other’s face breasts and neck. This helps create a loving and caring atmosphere. For the woman who is aroused by nipple stimulation, the man on top position allows the man to kiss and stroke her nipples.

By altering the angle of her thighs to her tummy, the woman can change the degree of penetration even if the man stays in exactly the same position. As she brings her knees nearer to her chest, the penis goes in deeper. The woman can find just the right angle to give her the best sensations – perhaps as her lover stimulates her cervix with the tip of his penis. A variation of this is for the woman to rock her pelvis backwards and forwards. If, at the same time, she ‘milks’ her partner’s penis by contracting and relaxing her pelvic muscles, this can be extremely exciting for him.

Best for babies!

The man-on-top sex positions are very good for couples who are trying to have a baby, because penetration can be very deep. If the woman holds on to her legs behind her knees and draws her thighs right back, sperm can be deposited deep in the vagina – at the neck of the womb. This provided the best chance of conception occurring.

If the woman stays lying down after sex, with a pillow under her hips, the semen stands the best possible chance of entering her cervix, and the sperm will then be able to fertilise an egg.

man_on_top_sex_positionsWith her feet on her partner’s buttocks, the woman can pull the man in to grind against her with his pubic bone.

More than just romantic

Because it is a romantic yet fairly unadventurous sex position, it is a particularly good one when having sex with a new partner. While you are still learning about one another, it makes sense to go for a position that is non-threatening and loving.

The missionary position lays neither partner open to strangeness, anxiety and unfamiliarity. The woman’s hands are free to caress the man. This could be especially valuable – showing him that he is loved and wanted in the new relationship.

Because the man has control of the thrusting he can control his speed to orgasm. This is good news for the individual who fears losing control of ejaculation. A ‘trigger-happy’ man can thus stop when he feels ejaculation approaching, and a man who needs a great deal of thrusting to maintain his erection will also benefit.

Variations

The Kama Sutra and Chinese pillow books list many variations on the missionary position. Often the difference is in slight detail only, but there are many other simple, man-on-top sex positions that can be tried for a change.

  • The missionary position with one of the woman’s legs pulled back to her chest is a pleasant variation that skews the woman’s pelvis and enables the man to stimulate her ovary on one side. This may be tender for some women, so the man should be careful.
  • The man kneels and raises the woman’s buttocks onto the lower part of his thigh as he penetrates her. She crosses her ankles behind his back. This reduces the depth of penetration considerably but can be very exciting for the woman who enjoys having her vaginal opening teased and stimulated.
  • The man kneels between her open thighs, penetrates her, and then lifts her bottom from the bed so as to bring her as close as possible to his pelvis. This can produce superb sensations for both partners, but it is tiring for the woman to keep her back arched in this way for very long. One answer is to put a couple of pillows under her bottom.

sex position: the anvilThe ‘anvil’ sex position allows very deep penetration – the woman raising her feet above her partner’s shoulders.

  • The woman lies over the edge of the bed with her legs open. The man enters her and leans forwards on her body, taking most of his weight on his forearms or hands. This can be very tiring for the man because movement is restricted. It is, therefore, not a very suitable position for the couple who enjoy, or need, deep thrusting during lovemaking.
  • The woman lies on her side and raises her upper leg. The man cuddles into the front of her body and penetrates her. She curls her upper leg over his body. Here again, the angle of entry of the penis can be to one side, stimulating unfamiliar parts of the woman’s pelvic organs. Most couples find this a very loving and restful position, as the man does not have to support his weight. However, movement is restricted and the woman may have to contract her pelvic muscles to give her man the best pleasure.
  • A variation is for the woman to raise her upper leg so as to open up her pelvis further and ‘release’ him from the clamping effect around his waist. This allows him considerable movement, even though they are both on their sides, and she can obtain new sensations as she angles her upper leg differently.
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