Achieving female ejaculation
Female ejaculation is nothing new. The Greek philosopher Aristotle noted its existence, Italian anatomist Renaldus Columbus referred to female ejaculate while he was explaining the function of the clitoris and, in the 17th century, the Dutch anatomist Regnier de Graaf wrote a book about female anatomy and spoke of female fluid "rushing out" and "coming in one gush" during sexual excitement.
If it’s something you haven’t experienced, it could be something that a girl you have slept with has. She may have even done it whilst you were with her. For some, it’s a new thing and can be a bit of a shock. Some girls can find it embarrassing. For others, it’s just a normal part of sex – and is very enjoyable.
It’s not as difficult to achieve as one would think, and by the very nature of sex between two girls, it is actually often easier. If you partake in penetrative sex with your girlfriend through the use of fingers, then you’ll find that you could get there quite easily. It’s all about stimulating that hidden g-spot – and, of course, feeling relaxed with each other.
You may find that with a new girlfriend, either of you may be prone to ejaculating. Some have no problem with it, but others might find it a little embarrassing at first simply because it can be quite messy and, if you’ve never experienced it before, it can come as quite a shock. It’s a very powerful and substantial way of having an orgasm, one which you’ll never forget!
The most important thing to remember – particularly if you do it yourself – is that it is not urinating. Research has shown that, whilst there may be a slight odour, it’s a completely different chemical make up from urine – so you are not wetting the bed (in that sense). Also, unlike men, the clear fluid can be created at a rapid rate during sex, so it sometimes may seem never ending, and indeed the only way to stop ejaculating is to stop having sex!
If you’re keen to actually try it for the first time with your girlfriend, you need to adjust the way you are having sex. With your fingers inside her, curve them slightly more in so that they are stimulating the wall of the front of the vagina. This should start rubbing against the glands that cause the ejaculation. She will find that she feels a different sensation as she is about to reach orgasm.
It’s important for her (and you) to relax when she is about to cum. It’s going to go everywhere – and that’s the great thing about it. There is quite a sense of occasion about it, so don’t be shy! You might as well just go for it. The orgasm will feel different from clitoral stimulation and as she cums you’ll probably feel your hand being forced out. Let it, and then go again. She might keep on having orgasms as long as you want her to!
