The first time

Q. I have always been attracted to women. I met a woman who I have totally fallen for. Problem? Neither of us has ever had sex with another woman before. It may sound strange, but we are crazy about each other. My concern is our inexperience. How do I go about taking things further?

A. Well, at least you have the first part right - you both know what you want in terms of your sexuality, which will go a long way to getting over those initial relationship problems.

The most important thing to remember is that there are no wrongs or rights when it comes to sex with another woman. The best thing of all is that you are both new to this, so you have no hang-ups in terms of what each other thinks.

Take your time initially, get to know each other's body and explore for as long as you want. You may be impatient to get down to it, but half the pleasure is in the discovery.

Work from experience of your own body - this is where you have the advantage. You are both women so you should have some clue as to what turns each other on.