What is douching - and how do I do it?

Douching is the practice of cleaning the bowels some time prior to sex by filling them with water then expelling that water. It is a way of ensuring the rectum is clean, which some men prefer when having anal sex.

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Am I gay?

Looking back, many men who identify as gay know they’ve been so for as long as they remember. When they found the word gay and applied it to themselves, no matter how or at what age this happened, they found their whole lives suddenly clicked into pl...

Body hair

Q. I have hair on my stomach and chest and I want to get rid of it. A lot of my friends say I shouldn’t: It’ll just grow back, I’ll get spotty and stubbly, and, anyway, it’s part of being a man. But I hate it!

Brewers droop?

Q. I keep ending up in bed with people I really like and who I want to impress, only to find myself impotent. I blame the booze, but if it weren’t for having fun with them for hours in the bar I wouldn’t be in bed with them...What can I do?

Other men's erections - your first time

Gay men’s first encounters with other men’s erections can be strange and complex experiences. There's excitement. You've got there. You've got him stripped to his intimate, naked self. He's upright and hard just for you, his excitement obvious and vi...

Homophobia: dealing with it - and beating it

It’s easy enough to see why homophobia exists, and why homophobic bullying happens. People bully. They want the excuse. They want something, someone to get at, to make feel bad, because that’s a quick fix to make them feel bigger, because they feel s...

STIs - The bad, the appalling, and the merely dull

True: the only sure way of never catching anything is only ever to have sex in one-on-one relationships in which both partners are 100% faithful and both have been tested - and cleared or cured. If that doesn't sound like you, it's worth knowing what...

Fresh? Getting your scent right

Your sense of smell is up there, though differently, with sight as a sense that leads straight to the meat - and the heart - of the matter. It's primitive. Using smell to heighten libido is one sure way of getting with nature's (gay) program.