Female Orgasm: Video Guides | Sex Tips | Sex Positions And Sex Advice

sex_positions_video_female_orgasmExploring and enhancing female orgasm, together with all aspects of sexual pleasure for him and her, is certainly one of the big reasons we exist at the Lovers’ Guide. Our videos – our video downloads – have changed millions of people’s love-lives for the better. We receive many messages from people the world over concerning orgasm. One question we often receive is from men and goes something like: How do I give her an orgasm? Right now, we’d like to take that question apart a little, and offer some essential advice on the best ways you can help her experience her orgasm.

Can You Give A Woman An Orgasm?

Guys, in a sense yes, also no. Before we go any further, the first thing we need to establish is that you know she is perfectly capable of giving herself an orgasm with none of your help. Indeed, she may be better at it. (Check out this piece on female masturbation techniques.)

So, this follows: when you want to help your woman achieve an orgasm, the first thing to do is to ask and pay attention to what she wants. That is not to say that, given the thorough and sensitive lover you no doubt are, she wouldn’t love to settle back in your arms or on a bunch of pillows, and let you do all the work. Hey, that’s love.

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1.  Kiss. All over. One moment her lips, the next her clitoris. Then back again. Be romantic about this. Create the mood. Join her up head to toe with each kiss. More often than not, after a hard day, our head and the brain within it are a million psychological miles away from our genitals – or any thought of sexual response. Caress you partner, and help her to relax and lose any tension. Make her feel beautiful, warm, and loved. And make her feel like it’s playtime!

2. Ask: ‘Hey Babe, you want me to…?’ Talk about what you love, and most importantly about how she wants you to please her. Ask what she likes most as well as suggesting things you know she’s liked before. This way, she knows she is fully sharing control, and that she is not passive and relying on you knowing what to do, as well as how to do it just the ways she likes. Keep these lines of communication open for a beautiful, shared experience, in which you can be assured that you are doing the right thing for her – so it isn’t all guess work on your part. Guys, take the pressure off yourself by doing this.

3. She comes first. Use loads of foreplay/sex-play. It is so important for men to understand that women do not tend to experience orgasm through intercourse alone. This can remain a big issue for men who have been taught to think their penis is it, the main event, and if their penis doesn’t ‘work’ they have somehow failed and are not quite the man they should be. Give her oral sex. Lavish careful attention on her clitoris, with your tongue as well as with lubricated hands and fingertips, whether using her own natural lubrication or a lube you can find in the Lovers’ Guide shops. Bring the sex toys in too, as well as your hand, if she’s okay with that. It’s great to use a really good vibrator with your partner to help get her off. Guys, let her have her first orgasm this way. Many a great lover is one who ensures his partner comes even before he penetrates. She can have more during intercourse, with your penis inside her.

4. Choose sex positions which result in her having the most orgasms. Try those sex positions in which you are both most able to continue to stimulate her clitoris. Ride high on her during something so simple as Missionary Position sex, or rock and grind using the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). Get both of her legs up, as in the Chest Lock, or just one of her legs raised against your chest can also work wonders.

Watch the ‘Lovers’ Guide Sexual Positions’ DVD video download and explore together the positions you most enjoy. For a whole host of great non-intercourse ways of making love, watch the Lovers’ Guide DVD video ‘Sex Play’ together – and try out the techniques you find there on each other. Explorations like this can be a great way of giving each other loads of orgasms, and of putting you both in control.

 

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