Eight reasons why orgasms are better with your lover and your vibrator

While vibrators can make a fabulous addition to your sex life, it’s all too easy to become so reliant on your toy that you forget about the many orgasmic pleasures your partner can bring. The Lovers’ Guide has collated some of the top reasons that orgasms are better with your lover as well as with your vibrator. In an ideal world there’s no reason that you can’t enjoy both.

1.         A vibrator may be able to give you an orgasm in double quick time but only a lover can spend time kissing you all over, giving you erotic massages, whispering saucy thoughts in your ear and generally getting your mind and body fully aroused before you finally get to orgasm.

2.         Much as it can be useful having a vibrator that’s hard all the time, there’s much more sense of achievement in making a lover hard for you. And let’s face it, watching your lover grow under your caresses is much more of a turn on than simply pulling your vibrator out of the drawer.

3.         A vibrator can only offer one kind of stimulation – or at best, three, if you go for a multiply-pronged variety. By comparison, your lover can lap at you with a soft tongue or nip you with passionate bites; he can use his fingers to caress your clit gently or squeeze it hard; he can lick, suck and pinch your nipples and make tender love to you or give you a hard, fast quickie – all without needing to get anything new (except condoms) out of the box.

4.         While it’s entirely possible to get sexually excited at the thought of getting home to an orgasmic session with your vibrator, that’s nothing compared to the lust that you can build up by spending all afternoon text-flirting with your partner. And then there’s that other four letter word. If you love your vibrator, it’s definitely time to seek therapy, whereas loving your partner will only serve to enhance your orgasm.

5.         When it comes to role play, your vibrator isn’t exactly going to come up with exciting new storylines or kinky suggestions. Your lover, on the other hand, has just as much of an imagination as you do, and together you’ll be able to come up with endless mind games that are sure to increase the quality and quantity of orgasms that you get.

6.         Looking your lover in the eye during sex is a fabulous way to intensify your orgasm. Looking down o see a neon pink phallus or rubber duck shaped novelty toy between your thighs, on the other hand, is hardly likely to add to the mood.

7.         Spending an evening having dinner with each other and playing footsie is bound to get your libido firing in a way that your vibrator just won’t be able to replicate. Well, not unless you want to get some very funny looks from the waiters.

8.         Your lover actually cares about your orgasm and that will add a frisson that no vibrator will ever be able to match. More to the point, it’s not just a one-way process with a lover. Unlike your vibrator, you’ll be able to give your lover an orgasm too.

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