Creative Lovemaking

Sharing Your Sexual Fantasies

We almost all of us have sexual fantasies. For many, our fantasies are where we explore thrilling alternatives and imaginary additions to the sex lives we enjoy with our partners. Unconstrained, we are transported in our imaginations to experiences which feel wholly satisfying, where we are carried on the high road to orgasm, where the brain – our most important sexual organ – has what it needs to feel fully sexy and fully turned on.

How slow can you go? Taking the focus off intercourse

It is a truth universally acknowledged that intercourse alone is often not the best way for a woman to experience orgasm. Women need more, and guys get that. Still, it can take a little care and thought, something of a change in mind-set, to take the focus off intercourse and redefine foreplay as sex-play, so that both partners can enjoy long, lingering hours of intimate, sensual, erotic, pure pleasure. If all too often your intimate moments are just that, moments, it can be awkward when you’ve probably both decided it’s time to turn things around, that something is missing here, that you want more.

3-D Lovers’ Guide creator Robert Page interviewed

Robert Page created the original “Lovers’ Guide” back in 1991. Here he talks about the huge impact of the brand over the last two decades and moving into 3-D and cinemas for the first time with “The Lovers’ Guide 3-D Igniting Desire”, for its 20th anniversary on Valentine’s Day 2011.

Sex and water

The feeling of weightlessness experienced in water can add a new dimension to a couple’s lovemaking – and you need look no further than the bath or shower for the ideal venue.

In the kink, bondage sex toys

Only a decade or so ago, kinky sex was something that was taboo. The idea of tying your lover up, putting them over your knee for a spanking or enjoying a role-play of wicked pirate and helpless slave was filed under ‘perverted’ and left strictly to lurid exposés in the tabloids. Nowadays, it’s practically mainstream. Fashion draws influence from fetish-wear, furry handcuffs are sold as novelty gifts (not just in sex toy shops either) and there are numerous sexy clubs you can go to if you fancy spanking your lover in public.

Prolonging sex, delaying orgasm – for men

Men who worry about how long it takes them to come aren’t doing themselves any favours, in terms both of enjoying sex, rather than worrying the while, and of lasting longer. Prolonging sex and delaying orgasm needn’t be, and shouldn’t be, an exercise in trying to switch off from feelings. Your body will just get on doing what it’s doing while your mind is trying to be elsewhere. If you want to last longer, you’d be better learning to enjoy the feeling of having sex while it’s happening, rather than fixate on the ‘goal’.

Summer lovin’: have a blast!

What’s the best thing about holiday sex? You’re in (we hope) a fabulous location, you’re away from home and all the routines there. Out of bounds, you’re free to let go, fantasize and shed inhibitions. And there’s the time as well: your whole day can revolve around romance. What does it for you?

What’s made for your most memorable lovemaking ever?

We all have experiences of lovemaking which stand out in the memory, which we treasure and which we might hope to relive. What made those times so memorable – and how can we reach those dizzying heights again? Here are some of our suggestions – then tell us yours!

Toys for two, sharing sex toys

Many people assume that sex toys are something best used for solo activity, but that’s only half the story. By choosing the right sex toy, you can enhance your lovemaking with your partner too. Maybe you have a hard time reaching climax at the same time as your lover? Perhaps you don’t get enough clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex? Or it could be that one or both of you want more G-spot stimulation. Different sex toys do different jobs, and with the help of the right sex toy, almost anything is possible.

Hunkering Down – Sexily!

For many of us, Autumn is steadily arriving and the summer holiday period has drawn to a close. Every night’s a school night – or so it can seem mid-week – and as those nights draw in we tend to experience affective changes, our light-enhanced summer selves bedding down into the slower, potentially cosier experience of autumn and winter. While for some, seasonal affective disorder can be a real problem, though it is often treatable, the lengthening nights bring changes for all of us, which can be made to work to our advantage.