When it’s Over

Your Broken Relationships: Share Your Stories Here

We all have our memories of past relationships, which in one way or another weren’t meant to be and didn’t work out. It may be that at the time, the break-up was terribly painful, especially if we did not want the relationship to end, if we were indeed in love and we got dumped. It may be things were rather more casual than that, the relationship more easy-come, easy-go, and never really a settled thing, into which we poured our love and hopes and dreams.

Saying its over

You know it’s time for the relationship to end. You’ve closed off from him. You just no longer fancy him, find his presence and his (increasingly) irritating (stupid) habits downright oppressive. (Why did it never really bug you before, the way he’d pick at his toenails while you watched TV?) So you look for excuses – anything – to be anywhere other than with him, even vaguely near him, to shut him out of your mind and life. Meanwhile, he’s still blissfully living the dream. He believes, knows, you’re the one who’s going to last forever. You’re the big thing in his life that makes him happy. So what do you do?

Is infidelity always bad?

‘Till death us do part’ say the vows. Whilst many people have monogamous marriages and ‘forsake all others’, affairs are also a fact of life. But is infidelity always a bad thing? Can a relationship remain healthy when the bedroom door is flung open to other players? And are people who cheat always wrong?

Time to grieve

He’s dumped you. What advice is on offer here? Pick yourself up? Get over it? Life moves on? Well, it does, in the end. You will – but that won’t happen straight away. There’s more than a little unhappiness to get through first. Rule one: don’t be ashamed of admitting that and letting it happen.

Saying its over

You know it’s time for the relationship to end. You’ve closed off from him. You just no longer fancy him, find his presence and his (increasingly) irritating (stupid) habits downright oppressive. (Why did it never really bug you before, the way he’d pick at his toenails while you watched TV?) So you look for excuses – anything – to be anywhere other than with him, even vaguely near him, to shut him out of your mind and life. Meanwhile, he’s still blissfully living the dream. He believes, knows, you’re the one who’s going to last forever. You’re the big thing in his life that makes him happy. So what do you do?

The ex-Factor

Can you be friends with your ex – and should you? The Lovers’ Guide gives you the grounds on which you can decide.

Counselling and how to get it

Many people benefit from talking over their problems with a counsellor and the field of counselling has grown enormously in recent years. As the field grows so does the number of approaches, and although this means that there is bound to be some form of counselling to suit most people, it can be difficult to make a choice.