Love scripts: bad relationship patterns and how to avoid them

Ever wondered why you find yourself in relationships that aren’t good for you? It could be you’re following your love script, your largely unconscious sense of how your relationships ought to be. And where your unconscious gets it wrong, remedial action and self-help become necessary.

My wife had a lesbian sex flirtation! Party on?

“Is my wife a lesbian?!” Well, probably no. Still, when the booze is flowing at a great party, sexy things can happen. Worry not: advice is given.

I’m snooping on my partner’s internet sex sites

I sometimes find my boyfriend on the internet, well, more that I see the ‘history’ of the sites he’s visited, and they’re just porn. We have an enthusiastic sex life (four or five times a week) and he says he loves me but I just feel I can’t be enough for him and find it’s really stopping me moving forward in this relationship. In many other ways he’s good and kind but this is beginning to get me down – and I hate finding myself snooping on his computer. What do I do?

My partner saw a prostitute?!

In the middle of a really bad row, and I mean a 9 on the Richter Scale, my husband spat at me that he had once been to a prostitute. It hit me hard at the time, but then the whole row was hugely unsettling, and I didn’t ask when or what the circumstances were. Now it’s preying on my mind and I am wondering if this happened during our five year marriage. How do I now ask? If it was do I leave him? This is really gnawing awing away at me, please help.

Three little words: ‘I love you’

They can make your year or bring your hopes and plans dribbling to a premature end. When is the right time to say ‘I love you’? When are the wrong times? And how you do you best make sure you get the only one right answer, ‘I love you too’?

How to write an internet dating profile

Your internet dating profile is a showcase and an advert for you. More than this, though, your profile presents a set of cues other people can use to contact you in a way that is meaningful. It is a part of a conversation you are already having with the other members of your dating site before an individual message has yet been sent

Compatibility tests

For weeks and even months you’ve been starry eyed, permanently bed-bound (in the right way), flushed with your body’s ‘love-buzz’ chemicals – and you most likely haven’t even cared to ask if this might be the one. Love is blind.

Casual Sex: The Rules

Between relationships – and don’t want a new relationship yet – but not ready to give up your sex life? Well, thanks be to condoms, you might find the casual sex option the solution for you. These are the rules.

Signs of flirting

Spot the secret signs of flirting. Girls, get to grips with male body language flirting – and guys, if you’re flirting with women, learn how to do it right and see whether they really are keen on you.

How relationships progress

The ups and downs of life with a partner are familiar to all of us – but do you know why the course of true love rarely runs smoothly?