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Sex

Enhancing dildo orgasm for your partner

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Using dildos on your passive partner before you indulge in your favourite anal sex positions, which might be quite vanilla anal sex, can be a mind-blowing experience for him and a real exercise in loving control for you, both during anal sex and while you’re wielding the toys.

Anal dildo sex play

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Anal dildo sex play offers a huge sense of sensual satisfaction, through the nerve-endings packed around the anus and, in the man, stimulation of the prostate, the male G-spot.

Gay sex toys advice

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Gay sex toys bring a wealth of delicious experiences to your lovemaking. Explore intimate anal and genital sensation with butt-plugs, dildos, vibrators and cock rings, dress for sex with bondage gear and use massage oils and lubricants to sensitize your and your partner’s skin.

Masturbation with male sex toys: using butt plugs

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We’re often told that butt plugs enhance masturbation both by stimulating the anus and by exerting pressure from inside on the prostate, the male G spot. Result: bigger, harder erections and a more intense experience of orgasm. There’s truth in this, though the reality is a little more complicated. To get the most from masturbation with sex toys, it can help to bear in mind that the toys change the quality of the feelings associated with arousal and orgasm; it isn’t just a case of getting more of the same thing.

How do I take a big penis inside me?

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Question: Hi. I have a boyfriend. We are somewhat together and have feelings for each other deeply. I feel we are on our way to LOVE!!!! We just have one problem: he has a 8.5, thick dick. Giving him orally isn’t a problem. It’s just trying to get penetrated.

Erotic selves

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We play different roles, we have different selves, and during the course of the average day the erotic can tend to be driven far from our minds, even forcibly repressed as we seek to function effectively in a work environment. It is for this reason it is important, prior to sex, to spend some time coaxing our erotic self back to the forefront of our being.

First time advice for gay anal sex

Gay Sex - How Cool Is That?

Anal sex is often seen as the definitive form of gay love-making. You might think, and be pressured to think, that if you’re not doing it, be you top, bottom or versatile, you must be some sort of second rate closet case. But is it for you? It can hurt (a lot) at first, comes as something of a shock to the system, and might well be termed an acquired taste. If you fancy it, here are a few tips on how to begin to acquire it.

Simulated penetration – how and why

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Simulated penetration can feel strange, as if it isn’t ‘really’ sex, more a poor relation – as if you should really be doing something more. It can certainly lead to more, but can also be enjoyed in its own right, whether as cock-rubbing or with one partner’s penis sliding between the recipient partner’s thighs and buttocks.

Cock worship: a hands-on guide

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Your cock doesn’t always have to go in whichever orifice seems nearest and most convenient. Imagine: no top, no bottom, just two guys having a great time jacking off. Here’s how it goes.

Enhancing gay sex positions: being a better bottom

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Andy in New York has sent us in this piece about what the bottom can do to help make sex better. He writes: Although I don’t like the labels of ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ and I believe that every gay man should experience being both, I myself prefer to bottom. All too often, bottoms just lie there and take it, but they don’t really participate because they don’t think that there is anything they can do. I disagree and the following is a list of things to try as a bottom.