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Gay Sex Positions

First time advice for gay anal sex

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Anal sex is often seen as the definitive form of gay love-making. You might think, and be pressured to think, that if you’re not doing it, be you top, bottom or versatile, you must be some sort of second rate closet case. But is it for you? It can hurt (a lot) at first, comes as something of a shock to the system, and might well be termed an acquired taste. If you fancy it, here are a few tips on how to begin to acquire it.

Enhancing gay sex positions: being a better bottom

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Andy in New York has sent us in this piece about what the bottom can do to help make sex better. He writes: Although I don’t like the labels of ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ and I believe that every gay man should experience being both, I myself prefer to bottom. All too often, bottoms just lie there and take it, but they don’t really participate because they don’t think that there is anything they can do. I disagree and the following is a list of things to try as a bottom.

At the edge of the bed: relaxed oral

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Yes, the height of the bed does matter. The penetrating partner might not be able to stand tall doing this one – and if that’s what he wants, you might think: kitchen table. On the other hand, if kneeling doesn’t quite raise him high enough, he’ll need a few cushions and phone books Caveats aside, this is a truly inspired variation on the basic face fuck.

Over the table

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If you like sex in which domination games play a big role, but aren’t inclined to elaborate this into leather, masks, cuffs, candles, wracks, or, for the truly perverse, the feather duster, try positions in which the top forcibly holds the bottom’s face and torso down against a table.

Take your seats

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You’re on the sofa, your hands start to wander, next thing you know you’ve got each other’s pants round your knees – and, well, it seems only right, after brisk oral entrée, to take it all in.

Missionary position gay anal sex

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It’s true that the missionary position can lead to the most intimate love-making, allowing each man to see and be close to the other’s face, but that needn’t stop it being great sex. Indeed, with the closer emotional involvement, the physical sensations of sex are greatly enhanced.

Bottom on top

Gay sex: bottom on top

For variety, a shift in perspective, or if one of you is an anal beginner, get the top to lie back and relax while the bottom rides him.

69

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It seems a win-win situation. Each works on the other. Mouth and penis are satisfied. Each gives and receive at once. The trouble is, it can get confusing. How, after all, do you concentrate on giving a world-class blow-job when you’re writhing in the throws of what he’s giving you? True, side to side takes the pressure off, and for a languid, exploratory half hour can be about right, but if what you want is that pressure then someone’s going to have to be top.

Knees back? Legs up? Try both!

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Switching positions mid-process adds spice to your sex life, but if you’re not in a sex-tech mood can feel disruptive, in the absence of a good choreographer. Still, finding that same old position and staying there hours (optimistically thinking) can get dull. The answer? A third way for the third sex. With a few variations built on the initial topology, seamless continuity is readily achieved without the need to start planning supper.

Stand up!

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If the bedroom isn’t currently an option – because it’s too far away from the kitchen, where the sight of him washing up naked or reaching down into the salad drawer simply demands that you put your arms around him and have sex now, or if you’re shopping or out at a party and having sex is suddenly imperative – now is your chance to take a break from the more-or-less horizontal positions and make love more-or-less standing up.