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Better Gay Sex

Switching sexual roles – and retarded ejaculation

Sexual roles and gay sex

You try and you try and you thrust – and you just can’t come. Retarded ejaculation is an issue many men experience. Here, it is related to sexual roles, a usually passive guy wanting to top his new partner. Advice is given.

Enhancing dildo orgasm for your partner

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Using dildos on your passive partner before you indulge in your favourite anal sex positions, which might be quite vanilla anal sex, can be a mind-blowing experience for him and a real exercise in loving control for you, both during anal sex and while you’re wielding the toys.

How do I take a big penis inside me?

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Question: Hi. I have a boyfriend. We are somewhat together and have feelings for each other deeply. I feel we are on our way to LOVE!!!! We just have one problem: he has a 8.5, thick dick. Giving him orally isn’t a problem. It’s just trying to get penetrated.

Erotic selves

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We play different roles, we have different selves, and during the course of the average day the erotic can tend to be driven far from our minds, even forcibly repressed as we seek to function effectively in a work environment. It is for this reason it is important, prior to sex, to spend some time coaxing our erotic self back to the forefront of our being.

Sensual gay sex

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Sensuality when you’re having gay sex could be said to rely upon two things. Number one: your feelings of comfort, openness, friendship and, yes, love with and for your partner. Number two: your willingness and ability to indulge and revel in your own feelings of sensual and sexual pleasure.

Sweetening your juices

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Some love it anyway. They’ll lap it up. (You know the problem with anal sex? You just don’t get to taste it.) For others, the ick-factor’s high – and even for the come-connoisseur there’ll be good come and better come, come such as Olympian gods dined out on. And here, the significant issue is diet.

Tea-bagging? What’s that?

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In short, it’s a neat variation on oral sex, allowing you to take what might be a much needed break from sucking his penis. He stands above you or squats over you, dipping his balls in your mouth – and you handle with care!

Simultaneous orgasms

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Anal sex and simultaneous orgasms might not often be thought close bedfellows. One man comes into the other, right? And that other – well, his pleasure is different; if he wants to come too, if the prostate stimulation alone doesn’t do it, he’ll just have to wait his turn. There’ll be a lot of times when this is fine, but if, as the bottom, you consider those times when your top’s lying next to you, spent and preparing to snore, and you’re still hard, or if, as the top, you recall your partner’s wandering hand toying with your one-shot-per-hour, now flaccid penis, then you might think simultaneity is worth a try.
Being the bottom can feel significantly better if you haven’t yet come. The prostate stimulation is more intense, and the feelings of fullness and friction more richly satisfying. In other words, the answer for the post-ejaculatory-top dilemma is not for you to come sooner, rather than later. Your orgasm will also tend to be a lot more intense if he’s still inside.

Hugging

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Even now, with the ongoing gay liberation movement allowing men more and more freedom to escape from what we might term traditional masculine roles, it can be difficult for some men fully to accept the tenderness, sensitivity and emotional vulnerability that comes with hugging. Indeed, if they have been subject to homophobic abuse, they may have introjected their attackers’ hatred of those qualities which made them seem gay, and so learned to repress all admission of feelings. However, if they fumble a hug, it’s less likely they’ll be fully emotionally responsive to their partner in the rest of their relationship and during sex.

Giving good anal

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Whether you’re about to be top for the first time or you’re already used to being the one in the saddle, it’s worth taking time to think about how you can make it a thoroughly pleasurable experience for you and your partner!