A beginner’s guide to lesbian sex

There are no hard and fast rules to lesbian (or any!) sex. However, there are some things to keep in mind that should certainly go a long way to making the experience more pleasurable.


The odds are that the other girl is likely to be just as nervous as you. Even if she’s slept with women before, she’d have to be a pretty confident (and arrogant) person not to feel a little nervous sleeping with a person for the first time.

Relaxing may seem hard at first, but you aren’t alone – just take your time and ease into the situation – only go as slow or as fast as you feel comfortable with and don’t feel pressured into doing anything you aren’t entirely sure about.

Start off slow

Kissing is always the best way to start off! You will find that if there is a mutal attraction and things are going well, the kissing will lead into exploring each others bodies and eventually sex. Before you realise it you’ll be lying there wondering what all the fuss was about!

Trust your instincts

If there is anyone who knows a woman’s body well, it’s another woman. A good rule of thumb is to just try what you think you might like done to you. Don’t jump straight in there with the suggestion of bondage or toys – you don’t want to run before you can walk! It may be exciting to think you are taking that first step, but there’s plenty of time to get used to each other and try new things.

Respect the other girl

Yes it’s great, you’ve finally got yourself a girl and you can’t wait for her to ravish you all night, but don’t forget there might be things she isn’t comfortable with doing and she may not want to move as fast as you. If you want things to last or even just be pleasurable if it’s short and sweet, you’ll get a better response by respecting what she wants as well as thinking of your needs.

Be safe

It’s a common misconception that safe sex doesn’t apply to lesbians. It does – particularly with STI’s like cystitis and thrush. Always wash your hands before (and after) sex, try to keep your nails short and be aware of anyone with open cuts, sores or bleeding gums – particularly when it comes to cunnilingus.

Have fun!

This is the most important part! If you don’t enjoy it – don’t do it! Good sex with someone you trust is meant to be fun and your confidence will be boosted no end. You’ll soon find that you’ll both be exploring your sexuality together which is always so much more fun!

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